GENERAL AUDIENCE POPE FRANCIS
Wednesday, 4 November 2015
Family
- 31. Forgive us our debts
Dear
Brothers and Sisters, Good morning!
The Assembly of the
Synod of Bishops, which concluded only
recently, reflected in depth on the vocation and the mission of the family in
the life of the Church and of contemporary society. It was an event of grace.
At the end the Synod Fathers consigned to me the text with their conclusions. I
wanted this text to be published, so that all may assist in the work in which
we engaged for two years. This is not the moment to analyze these conclusions,
on which I too must meditate.
In the meantime, however, life
does not stand still, in particular the life of families does not stop! You,
dear families, are always journeying and you are already continually writing
the beauty of the Gospel of the family on the pages of real life. In a world
which is sometimes barren of life and love, you speak each day of the great
gifts that marriage and family are.
Today, I would like to
emphasize this aspect: that the family is a great training ground for the mutual giving and forgivingwithout which
no love can last for long. Without self-giving and seeking forgiveness love
does not last, it does not endure. In the prayer that he himself taught us —
namely the Our Father — Jesus makes us ask the Father: “Forgive us our debts, As we also have forgiven our debtors”. And
at the end he states: “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly
Father also will forgive you; but if you do not forgive men their trespasses,
neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” (Mt 6:12, 14-15).
One cannot live without
seeking forgiveness, or at least, one cannot live at peace, especially in the
family. We wrong one another every day. We must take into account these
mistakes, due to our frailty and our selfishness. However, what we are asked to
do is to promptly heal the wounds that we cause, to immediately reweave the
bonds that break within the family. If we wait too long, everything becomes
more difficult. There is a simple secret to healing wounds and to avoiding
recriminations. It is this: do not let the day end without apologizing, without
making peace between husband and wife, between parents and children, between
brothers and sisters... between daughters- and mothers-in-law! If we learn to
apologize promptly and to give each other mutual forgiveness, the wounds heal,
the marriage grows stronger, and the family becomes an increasingly stronger
home, which withstands the shocks of our smaller or greater misdeeds. This is
why there is no need for a long speech, as a caress is enough: one caress and
everything is over and one can start afresh. But do not end the day at war!
If we learn to live this way
in the family, we can also do so outside, wherever we may be. It is easy to be
skeptical about this. Many people — even Christians — think it is an
exaggeration. It is said: yes, they are fine words, but it is impossible to put
them into practice. But thanks be to God it is not so. Indeed, it is precisely
in receiving forgiveness from God that we in turn are capable of forgiving
others. This is why Jesus has us repeat these words each time we recite the Our
Father prayer, that is, every day. And it is crucial that, in a sometimes
pitiless society, there be places, such as the family, in which to learn to
forgive one another.
The Synod also rekindled our
hope in this regard: namely, that the capacity to forgive and to seek
forgiveness is part of the vocation and the mission of the family. Practicing
forgiveness not only saves families from divisiveness, but makes them capable
of helping society to be less heartless and less cruel. Yes, each act of forgiveness
fixes the cracks in the house and strengthens its walls. The Church, dear
families, is always beside you to help you build your house on the rock that
Jesus spoke of. Let us not forget these words which immediately preceded the
parable of the house: “Not every one who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord’, shall enter
the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven”.
And he adds: “On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy
in your name, and cast out demons in your name...?’ And then will I declare to
them, ‘I never knew you’” (Mt 7:21-23). It is undoubtedly a strong word, with
the purpose of shaking us and calling us to convert.
I assure you, dear families,
that if you are capable of walking ever more firmly on the path of the
Beatitudes, learning and teaching to mutually forgive each other, the capacity
to bear witness to the renewing power of God’s forgiveness will grow in the
whole of the great family of the Church. Conversely, we may even make beautiful
sermons, and perhaps drive away some demons, but in the end the Lord will not
recognize us as his disciples, because we did not have the capacity to forgive
and ask others to forgive us!
Truly Christian families can
do a great deal for today’s society, and also for the Church. For this reason I
hope that in the Jubilee of Mercy families may rediscover the treasure of
mutual forgiveness. Let us pray that families may be ever more capable of
experiencing and building practical paths of reconciliation, where no one feels
abandoned to the weight of his debts.
With this intention, let us
say together: “Our Father, forgive us our debts, As we also have forgiven our
debtors”. [Let us say it together: “Our Father, forgive us our debts, As we
also have forgiven our debtors”].
Special
greetings:
I greet the English-speaking
pilgrims and visitors taking part in today’s Audience, including those from
England, Norway, Sweden, Japan, Korea and the United States of America. Upon
you and your families I invoke the Lord’s blessings of joy and peace. God bless
you all!
I address a cordial welcome to
Italian-speaking pilgrims.
I invite everyone to pray for
the departed in this month of November, and may your pilgrimage to the
Apostolic See strengthen your sense of belonging to the one ecclesial family.
I address a thought to young people, the sick and newlyweds. Yesterday we celebrated
the memorial of St Martin de Porres. May his great charity be an example to
you, dear young people, to
live life as a gift; may his abandonment in Christ the Saviour sustain you,
dear sick people, in the
most difficult moments of suffering; and may his spiritual strength empower
you, dear newlyweds, in
your conjugal journey.
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